A Life without Facebook!!!!!!!!

Friends, Do we remember what Life was before Facebook?

What if facebook closes down tomorrow? Well, Noone Knows. I wonder how we have developed an attachment to this Facebook. Incase the Facebook shuts down tomorrow, i am sure we will take some time in accepting that and then lead a normal life.

We dont have time to maintain relationships with our blood relationships / best friends, but through facebook we keep contact with people we dont know even. But again we have found our old lost childhood friends.

In reality we dont have even a minute to share our personal life with our near ones. But we post our minute to minute detail on wall post. But again we share special photographs with everyone on facebook and Far distant people appreciate it.

I have a Love / hate relationship with this Facebook. It is so much time consuming. Frankly we dont realize how much time do we spend on facebook untill one day I chose to delete my facebook account. Only I know how I have controlled myself. I use to think who has posted , who has complimented me. Funny nah ;).. ...But after 2 weeks i again restarted my account..

But i would conclude, at the end facebook is just another tool to connect others. I am sure we all have contacts of real close friends n relatives, so even if Facebook closes down , it really doesnt change our life.

Shall we once give a 21 days trial taking facebook from our life. Can we even imagine doing it? Share your views?

Internal Happiness !!!!!

Hey Friends ,,,,,,,,,

Back with one more topic..........


Guess everyone is struggling to find Happiness. I guess after roti (food), kapda ( clothes) and makaan ( Shelter), this is the basic need in our life.

When we are not happy, life becomes so dull, like time has stopped. We say face is the index of mind. And that's 100 % true, When we sad, face looks so dull and shine-less. Once we are happy, our face glows and we look so fresh.

We try to be happy via career, shopping, relationships or whatever way we can. Whe
We all think that we will get happiness when our needs are satisfied. When we get promotion, when we get the car, when we wear our favorite clothes, when we spend our time with favorite people, we are so happy. But if by chance if our wants are not satisfied, we are sad, The happiness disappears. I think its we who should control the happiness. How can we depend on outside to be happy ? Every can be happy with good and positive things. But I guess the real challenge is to survive with the same happiness when things goes unexpected. Real Challenge is to be happy regardless whatever is happening.

If someone misbehaves, why does it happen that our happiness gets ruined. It should be the other way round. God has given us a very good filtering system. Why cant we make use of it.

Basically, in today's life we don't have control in our emotions and believe me I am worst at it. I have become so emotional , short tempered and so impatient. I use to depend on others for my happiness. I realized that my anger use to hurt me more than anyone else.

So i am trying to be more happy now. When i get disturbed, i try to distract my attention.


Accepting the best in others and Avoiding the negativity , will bring us happiness. Positive feelings and Good wishes from ourselves might be a way to be happy, Sharing will definitely bring us happiness. We all want happy people around as they get a positive vibe. So we need to be happy to keep others happy. I think the genuine smile and laugh that comes from happiness is highly contagious and that's one thing we can spread without fear.



I know to try these things are very difficult. But at least we can all take a 1st step ...... i.e expect less. And we all be happy. To be happy and not to be happy, are the two choices that we have.


I will conclude my Blog with " Don't worry , Be happy"!!!!All is well !!

Tuhina

Just a Thought - My Culture

Western Culture has a very deep influence in India. There are lot of good things that we have accepted from the western culture. But Is this western influence destroying Indian Culture? Are the young generation aware of what our culture is ?

We are getting more westernized day by day. Clothes getting shrinked, we have a problem using our mother language. Children are more exposed to english medium schools. Do they even know the festivals of India ? We have time to party, pubs , discs. But when times comes to interact with our people, we think its a waste of time.

The main reason what I think is because of we have become more materialistic than emotional n spiritual. Its strange to come across Indians who are outside India have problem going back in India. If we ask them why. Because they have such a luxurious life that they cannot sustain without it. They cant live without AC, luxurious appartments. How funny ? Afterall we have been living in India so many years.


To sustain ourself in this competive world we have compromised to adopt the changing life style. We can see the effect of western culture right from dressing to eating habits ...........from Songs to dance.

We check the reality shows. Children who come with traditional dance are asked to show if they know western dance and they will be selected. Why a Indian has to know the western dance that too in a competition that is being held in India.

Western traditions has been so much overestimated that we dont even give important to our culture. We buy more of foreign products because we think that western products are better in quality wise. How is this decided. Only because of Good packaging.

People outside Indian take so much care of western countries that they dont throw a paper outside. We take every step to implement all that is required to keep that country clean. But we have taken India for granted. Do we ever care to implement these in India.

n this competetive world we are slowly forgetting the world we have come from . Thanks to my parents , that I am still attached with my grand parents and i know about my forefathers? How many parents sit with their children for 5 mins in a day n make them know who are their ancestors?

If we are really interested to follow the western culture then we should take the positive points. We should learn the respect they have for each other, the way they keep their country clean rather than the other way.

I think western culture seems to have intruded into our family system, specially in Big cities.

Its in our hand to keep our culture safe.We should all know about the western culture but at the same time the same importance has to be given to the Indian culture.

I wish and I hope i can give my children proper guidance to our Indian Culture. Simply by complaining about ths problems in india, not going to solve it.

This is my thought. May be I am biased towards my culture.

Do give your thoughts!!!!!!

Cheers

Confused Mind !!!!!!!!!!!1

When I look back , 26 years gone, with so many memories, both pleasant and un pleasant. But we are so lucky when we are small. When we are with parents. They just read our minds so well that you just dont need to be in tension. We dont have to use our brains in taking decisions.

I miss so much those days. Why am I so confused today? Why I need someone to hug me and tell everything is going to be OK? Why cant we live life as we want to? Y today my heart is crying when actually there is no reason to cry. Why do we have to compromise for everything?

So many questions coming up but there is no reply to these questions? Why am i not able to find the original Tuhina. Why am i not able find where my real happiness is ? Why there are thousands of thoughts in my mind? Why cant I go back to that time when without saying my mom knew my problem and has the solution readymade?

God, please help me take a decision in which I can be happy ........Help me get over this confused state ..........Love u God !!!!!!

Family - An unbreakable bond

If I want to define family in a simple one line, IT is a unity among a group of people who care and attend to each other's needs. Family forms an unbreakable bond. There was a time when the old values of family were important and was nurtured and cherished. Earlier Family by default meant Joint family. A joint family consisted of generations from A-Z under one roof. It meant having one kitchen. Decision was taken by the head of the Family. We had one worship place.

 Someone said "Family acted as a complete security check to the family and to the grand children whose parents are working".

I myself have come from a Joint family. My Joint family consisted of my Grandmother and Grandfather, Uncle and aunties, my parents and my cousins. What a life then it was. That was a time when the joys become double, the sympathy and support of family members were enough to handle the sorrows and depression.

In case of illness, depression, family disaster, The Family proves a sheer support and comfort. I remember when my dad or grand dad was ill, it was my grand mom / my mom performed their duties without any selfish motives so well that they need not be treated by the professional staff. I think my grand mom who never went to school has taken care of their kids with their naturally over flowing love and affection. And in today’s generation, it’s Medicare who takes care of our family.

Nowadays the impact of modern culture has somewhat shaken the concept of Family. But now we are in Modern life. Modern life gave birth to a new concept of Nuclear Family. Though everyone knows the disadvantage, no one is ready to accept the truth. In this material world, where people hardly have time to believe in God, it’s a matter of fashion that parents are left in old age house and parents give up their responsibilities by leaving their kids in hostel.

How can this MODERN LIFE change the concept of family which is as old as civilization? No relations in the world can be as intimate and as close as in the family.

Now we have just one goal in life............How to have a better future. Slowly family members like us migrated to distant towns and cities in search of a better lifestyle. What lifestyle did we end up in.........? A lifestyle with more cholesterol, heart disease, alcohol, tobacco.

Nowadays the functions, festivals have become status symbol nowadays which was a mere pleasure and enjoyments, homemade savouries in joint family.

No one even thought of the Word "DIVORCE" then. Modern lifestyle has become more of a status symbol than anything else. A working lady is considered more valuable than any homemakers. And this concept has been brought by none other than we woman.

The family was much much strong and stable till the woman was a homemaker and was content a lot. I know many women now would have thought how can I being a woman say this sentence. But that’s the truth. She gave her best to the family. And once we have become career conscious, we gave our home second priority. This has weakened the family bond. 

I still believe that grandparents can look after the kids in a much better way that we can. Nowadays our parents are considered as a burden to this modern world. We treat our parents and grandparents as if they are no more a part of our world.

I am proud and happy that my parents still have those traditional and cultural views that they follow. I have a lot of respect for my culture and I pray God that when I have my kids I can give this culture to them.

I am proud that I haven’t lost my old culture and tradition but at the same time tried to adapt myself to make both culture a part of my life in a way that both cultures are respected.

I will be happier in confessing that after coming to Bahrain, I thought parties and drinks make life more sociable and modern. Before landing in Bahrain, my life was much simpler. . And I was much happier with the simple friends I had. .

I can only hope that someday Indians in India and everywhere reaches a good balance between the two cultures so that we can cope up with today’s ‘world. I hope someday people will realize the value of the generation that we have left it far behind.

Who am I?

Its a very difficult topic to write. Just confused where shall i start from? I hope that mine and readers's idea of myself doesnt vary much.

I am a God fearing  lady who tries to keep  positive as well as negative  outlook towards every aspect of life..Dance is my passion.  There are many things in life that i love to see and do. I have started liking writing recently.

I love to talk , I love to dream , I love to think, I love to day dream. Sometimes I love to look at the sky with a blank mind..

I hate solitude. I always love to be surrounded by people.

I love shopping ............specially shoes............. I love to eat all the junk food in the world . ................

About my nature. I am a down to earth person. The child in me is alive and always rocking.

Love for me is unconditional. Maximum time i like to interact through compromise and negotiation. For me other people's point of view is very important. I feel everyone in the world has the right to give their opinion.. Like every normal human beings i have done alots of mistakes in life.........Maybe to nature, to friends...............But I think the best part is that I admit that I have done mistakes and i try to  learn from it. I try my level best to be humble. I am very impatient and i am trying everyway to increase my patience level.
I love laughing. I can laugh whole day .......and cry all of a sudden. Like me , My mind also dances. I Believe that there i always something to learn from any situations.

Family is the pillar of my success. As told earlier people and relations are more important to me than anything else.

Reading is not my cup of tea. I just cant sit at one place more than few minutes. I love the smell of the earth when it rains. Its so stimulaing. I love when it rains . I love the Holi and Christmas.

I take pleasure from very simple things. I am very sensitive to people behavior.  My face is really my minds reflection.  Its said  everything happens for good. But I think sometimes negatives do happen. Life is just like that. What is s important is how we react to it.

I feel the world we stay is a beautiful place. And I am proud to be the part of this earth.

Sometimes I take my life very seriously but its someone who has made my life so beautiful that I can just laugh at it.

This is all about myself.

Love - For ME

What is Love? Is it Real? Does it exist? Has anyone seen it?

To some Possessiveness is love while to some Jealousy is love.  For some Lust is love and to some expectation from others is love.

But for me I think Real love is unconditional. Its a understanding and Its accepting the imperfection. Love is real. For me all other forms of love are really not love.

I think to love someone unconditionally means to love some one exactly they are. Time changes then how can we expect people to be same. I think  love is not about us or our pleasure Its not about showing others.

Its important for the younger generation to differentiate between love and infactuation.

Its said one falls in love. But for me love lifts us up. It makes us a better person than we were. Love gives us the strength to fight against all the odds.

Love is more of a spiritual thing. It has nothing to do with blood relations. It has nothing to do with sex.Many people are in relations because either they are bound by the society or they are lonely.

I think everyone should experience this unconditional love for once. Its truly a life - time experience.

Dedicated to all the true lovers in the world..................Lets spread this uncondional love so that there is no space for war in the world.

Cheers